The New Topping Book

“ Consensual sadism, dominance and topping are primarily empathic activities. ” e.style.display='none');if(typeof getContentsSections==='function')setTimeout(getContentsSections,50)" /> The stereotype is backwards. The popular image of a BDSM top is someone amoral and unfeeling. Easton and Hardy argue the opposite: the top's primary reward is a "contact high" — surfing the bottom's sensations with empathy so intense it approaches the telepathic. Both authors report enormous orgasms after hours of technically demanding topping, as if pleasure had been building inside them unseen. One top descri

Lesson 1: The best tops aren't cold tyrants — they're profound empaths

This principle from The New Topping Book is backed by Dossie Easton's extensive research and real-world examples. Understanding it deeply can shift how you approach decisions, relationships, and long-term planning in meaningful ways.

Lesson 2: Build a fireplace before you play with fire

This principle from The New Topping Book is backed by Dossie Easton's extensive research and real-world examples. Understanding it deeply can shift how you approach decisions, relationships, and long-term planning in meaningful ways.

Lesson 3: Tops who won't ask for nurturance aren't tough — they're unsafe

This principle from The New Topping Book is backed by Dossie Easton's extensive research and real-world examples. Understanding it deeply can shift how you approach decisions, relationships, and long-term planning in meaningful ways.

How to Apply The New Topping Book's Lessons

The real value of The New Topping Book lies in its applicability. After reading, the most important step is identifying which of Dossie Easton's principles speak most directly to your current situation.

Consider keeping a journal while reading — noting where the ideas challenge your current approach and where they confirm what you already suspected. The friction of your own resistance often points to the most important insights.

Key Quote

"The best tops aren't cold tyrants — they're profound empaths" — Dossie Easton, The New Topping Book

About the Author

Dossie Easton is the author of The New Topping Book. The book reflects years of research, observation, and synthesis of evidence from multiple disciplines.