Shame and Motivational Interviewing: Building Readiness for Change

How motivational interviewing approaches Shame — resolving ambivalence and building motivation for recovery.

Motivational Interviewing (MI) is particularly valuable for shame when ambivalence about change is blocking recovery.

Ambivalence in Shame

People with shame are often ambivalent about change — part wants relief, part fears the unknown of being without familiar shame patterns. This is normal, not resistance.

How MI Addresses Shame Ambivalence

MI uses specific techniques to help people explore and resolve their ambivalence about shame treatment:

  • Reflective listening: Hearing and naming both sides of shame ambivalence
  • Decisional balance: Exploring pros and cons of changing vs. staying the same with shame
  • Evoking change talk: Drawing out the person's own reasons for addressing shame
  • Affirming strengths: Highlighting past capacities relevant to shame recovery

MI in Shame Treatment Settings

MI is integrated into many shame treatment approaches as an engagement tool. It's particularly useful at the beginning of treatment and when motivation fluctuates.

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