Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for sadism and provides direction when sadism removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Sadism
Sadism often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when sadism has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult sadism periods
- A basis for action independent of how sadism makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Sadism
Ask yourself: 'If my sadism were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Sadism
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when sadism is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite sadism, are more sustainable than waiting for sadism to lift first.