Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for love bombing and provides direction when love bombing removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Love Bombing
Love Bombing often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when love bombing has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult love bombing periods
- A basis for action independent of how love bombing makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Love Bombing
Ask yourself: 'If my love bombing were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Love Bombing
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when love bombing is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite love bombing, are more sustainable than waiting for love bombing to lift first.