Polyvagal Theory, developed by Stephen Porges, provides a neuroscience framework that explains many aspects of divorce in terms of the nervous system's safety-detection mechanisms.
The Three States of Polyvagal Theory and Divorce
Ventral vagal (safe and social): Optimal state for connection, learning, and divorce management
Sympathetic mobilization (fight or flight): Anxiety-type divorce responses
Dorsal vagal shutdown (freeze/collapse): Depression and dissociation-type divorce
Neuroception and Divorce
Neuroception — the body's unconscious safety-detection — can be dysregulated in divorce, causing false alarms (sensing danger when safe) that drive divorce responses.
Polyvagal-Informed Divorce Treatment
Therapy that acknowledges the body's state — helping clients move into ventral vagal 'safe and social' — transforms divorce management.
Safe relationships, co-regulation, and body-based practices are particularly emphasized.