Self-compassion — treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend — is one of the most evidence-based psychological tools for borderline personality disorder.
What Self-Compassion Is (and Isn't) for Borderline Personality Disorder
Self-compassion is not:
- Self-pity (which increases borderline personality disorder)
- Lowering standards or making excuses
- Weakness
Self-compassion is:
- Recognizing that struggling with borderline personality disorder is part of shared human experience
- Being as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend with borderline personality disorder
- Meeting borderline personality disorder with warmth rather than harsh self-criticism
The Research on Self-Compassion and Borderline Personality Disorder
Kristin Neff's research consistently shows that self-compassion predicts lower borderline personality disorder, greater emotional resilience, and better wellbeing than self-esteem.
Building Self-Compassion for Borderline Personality Disorder
- Self-compassion break: 'This is suffering. Suffering is part of being human. May I be kind to myself in this moment.'
- Inner critic reframe: What would you say to a friend with borderline personality disorder? Say that to yourself.
- Common humanity: You're not alone in struggling with borderline personality disorder.