Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for stalking and provides direction when stalking removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Stalking
Stalking often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when stalking has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult stalking periods
- A basis for action independent of how stalking makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Stalking
Ask yourself: 'If my stalking were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Stalking
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when stalking is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite stalking, are more sustainable than waiting for stalking to lift first.