Shame — the belief that you are fundamentally flawed or unworthy — is one of the most powerful drivers of social networking and the primary barrier to seeking help.
How Shame Maintains Social Networking
- Shame drives concealment of social networking, preventing the help that would reduce it
- Self-blame for social networking creates additional psychological burden
- Shame spirals can trigger and worsen social networking episodes
- Shame isolates — and isolation is a primary social networking amplifier
Shame vs. Guilt in Social Networking
Shame ('I am bad/flawed because I have social networking'): Drives more social networking
Guilt ('My behavior related to social networking hurt someone'): Can be productive
Therapy often helps shift from shame to guilt and then to self-compassion.
Building Shame Resilience for Social Networking
Brené Brown's shame resilience framework: recognize shame triggers, practice critical awareness, reach out, and share your story — all applicable to social networking shame.