Self-compassion — treating yourself with the same kindness you'd offer a good friend — is one of the most evidence-based psychological tools for social life.
What Self-Compassion Is (and Isn't) for Social Life
Self-compassion is not:
- Self-pity (which increases social life)
- Lowering standards or making excuses
- Weakness
Self-compassion is:
- Recognizing that struggling with social life is part of shared human experience
- Being as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend with social life
- Meeting social life with warmth rather than harsh self-criticism
The Research on Self-Compassion and Social Life
Kristin Neff's research consistently shows that self-compassion predicts lower social life, greater emotional resilience, and better wellbeing than self-esteem.
Building Self-Compassion for Social Life
- Self-compassion break: 'This is suffering. Suffering is part of being human. May I be kind to myself in this moment.'
- Inner critic reframe: What would you say to a friend with social life? Say that to yourself.
- Common humanity: You're not alone in struggling with social life.