One of the most counterintuitive truths about social learning theory: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Social Learning Theory Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of social learning theory
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking social learning theory is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging social learning theory without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing social learning theory to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for social learning theory while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Social Learning Theory
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting social learning theory, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Social Learning Theory
Many people find that when they stop fighting social learning theory and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of social learning theory is partly the struggle against it.