One of the most counterintuitive truths about social comparison theory: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Social Comparison Theory Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of social comparison theory
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking social comparison theory is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging social comparison theory without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing social comparison theory to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for social comparison theory while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Social Comparison Theory
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting social comparison theory, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Social Comparison Theory
Many people find that when they stop fighting social comparison theory and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of social comparison theory is partly the struggle against it.