Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for singlehood and provides direction when singlehood removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Singlehood
Singlehood often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when singlehood has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult singlehood periods
- A basis for action independent of how singlehood makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Singlehood
Ask yourself: 'If my singlehood were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Singlehood
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when singlehood is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite singlehood, are more sustainable than waiting for singlehood to lift first.