One of the most counterintuitive truths about the fundamentals of sex: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of The Fundamentals of Sex Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of the fundamentals of sex
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking the fundamentals of sex is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging the fundamentals of sex without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing the fundamentals of sex to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for the fundamentals of sex while still living your values
The ACT Approach to The Fundamentals of Sex
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting the fundamentals of sex, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting The Fundamentals of Sex
Many people find that when they stop fighting the fundamentals of sex and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of the fundamentals of sex is partly the struggle against it.