Avoiding vulnerability is a common rejection sensitivity response that ultimately worsens it. Understanding the paradoxical relationship between vulnerability and rejection sensitivity opens new pathways for recovery.
How Avoiding Vulnerability Maintains Rejection Sensitivity
- Concealing rejection sensitivity from others prevents the connection that would help
- The energy required to maintain a facade when rejection sensitivity is high is enormous
- Shame about rejection sensitivity thrives in secrecy — vulnerability interrupts this
- Authentic expression of rejection sensitivity often elicits the support that reduces it
Brené Brown's Research Relevance to Rejection Sensitivity
Brown's research shows that people with high levels of shame (common in rejection sensitivity) avoid vulnerability — which paradoxically increases shame and rejection sensitivity. Courage to be vulnerable interrupts this cycle.
Practicing Vulnerability with Rejection Sensitivity
Start small: share one authentic feeling with one trusted person. The feared negative response usually doesn't materialize — and when it doesn't, confidence in vulnerability builds.