One of the most counterintuitive truths about rationalization: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Rationalization Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of rationalization
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking rationalization is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging rationalization without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing rationalization to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for rationalization while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Rationalization
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting rationalization, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Rationalization
Many people find that when they stop fighting rationalization and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of rationalization is partly the struggle against it.