One of the most counterintuitive truths about proxemics: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Proxemics Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of proxemics
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking proxemics is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging proxemics without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing proxemics to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for proxemics while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Proxemics
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting proxemics, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Proxemics
Many people find that when they stop fighting proxemics and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of proxemics is partly the struggle against it.