One of the most counterintuitive truths about pornography: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Pornography Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of pornography
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking pornography is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging pornography without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing pornography to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for pornography while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Pornography
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting pornography, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Pornography
Many people find that when they stop fighting pornography and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of pornography is partly the struggle against it.