Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is one of the most evidence-based approaches for polyamory, with decades of research supporting its effectiveness.
What Is CBT for Polyamory?
CBT for polyamory works by identifying and challenging the negative thought patterns and behaviors that maintain polyamory. It's practical, structured, and time-limited.
Core CBT Techniques for Polyamory
Cognitive Restructuring: Identify automatic negative thoughts related to polyamory and evaluate their accuracy. Replace distorted thinking with balanced perspectives.
Behavioral Activation: Gradually re-engage with activities that polyamory has caused you to avoid. Action often precedes motivation, not the other way around.
Exposure Work: For polyamory involving avoidance, gradual, supported exposure helps reduce the fear response over time.
Thought Records: Track the connection between situations, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to identify patterns in your polyamory.
What to Expect in CBT for Polyamory
A typical CBT course for polyamory lasts 8-20 sessions. You'll learn skills between sessions through homework and practice.
Finding a CBT Therapist
Look for a therapist trained in CBT who has experience treating polyamory. Many sessions are now available online.