One of the most counterintuitive truths about perfectionism: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Perfectionism Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of perfectionism
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking perfectionism is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging perfectionism without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing perfectionism to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for perfectionism while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Perfectionism
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting perfectionism, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Perfectionism
Many people find that when they stop fighting perfectionism and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of perfectionism is partly the struggle against it.