Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for narcissism and provides direction when narcissism removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Narcissism
Narcissism often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when narcissism has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult narcissism periods
- A basis for action independent of how narcissism makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Narcissism
Ask yourself: 'If my narcissism were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Narcissism
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when narcissism is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite narcissism, are more sustainable than waiting for narcissism to lift first.