One of the most counterintuitive truths about microaggression: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Microaggression Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of microaggression
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking microaggression is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging microaggression without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing microaggression to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for microaggression while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Microaggression
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting microaggression, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Microaggression
Many people find that when they stop fighting microaggression and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of microaggression is partly the struggle against it.