Masturbation means stimulating one's own genitals, often to the point of orgasm . Masturbating can relieve sexual tension and reduce stress . It can also induce pleasure, enhance sexual satisfaction with intimate partners, and promote rest and relaxation.
Masturbation and Relationships
The physical act of masturbation in and of itself is not harmful. However, it is less clear whether using pornography (or sex dolls) may decrease male resolve to seek out relationships with an actual partner. Some people, primarily young men, admit that they find porn and masturbation adequate to fulfill their sexual needs, thus avoiding intimate relationships. In this case, as in every case, correlation is not causation, and it is possible that men who have problems finding partners in the first place are then turning to masturbation and pornography, or that a third factor better explains both porn use and a failure to seek out intimate relations in the real world.
Frequent masturbation is usually not the source of a couple’s sexual problems, but rather a symptom of poor communication about sexual needs. Some people find it easier to pleasure themselves than to have an honest dialogue with their partner about what arouses them, what turns them off, and the logistics of making sure both parties feel sexually satisfied.
When approached honestly and respectfully, masturbating can be a healthy part of a couple’s sex life, producing either neutral or positive effects. It can spur greater intimacy with a partner and even help couples who suffer from differences in their desired sexual frequency. Having masturbation as an option can relieve the pressure when a partner isn’t up for sexual activity.
It is normal for even young children to explore their bodies; they find masturbation pleasurable and an effective way to self-soothe. Children need to know that masturbation is a private act that is meant to feel good and not hurt. If a child’s masturbation seems excessive, parents should watch for signs of anxiety or depression .
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