One of the most counterintuitive truths about masturbation: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Masturbation Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of masturbation
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking masturbation is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging masturbation without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing masturbation to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for masturbation while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Masturbation
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting masturbation, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Masturbation
Many people find that when they stop fighting masturbation and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of masturbation is partly the struggle against it.