One of the most counterintuitive truths about machiavellianism: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Machiavellianism Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of machiavellianism
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking machiavellianism is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging machiavellianism without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing machiavellianism to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for machiavellianism while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Machiavellianism
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting machiavellianism, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Machiavellianism
Many people find that when they stop fighting machiavellianism and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of machiavellianism is partly the struggle against it.