Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for low sexual desire and provides direction when low sexual desire removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Low Sexual Desire
Low Sexual Desire often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when low sexual desire has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult low sexual desire periods
- A basis for action independent of how low sexual desire makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Low Sexual Desire
Ask yourself: 'If my low sexual desire were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Low Sexual Desire
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when low sexual desire is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite low sexual desire, are more sustainable than waiting for low sexual desire to lift first.