One of the most counterintuitive truths about low sexual desire: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Low Sexual Desire Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of low sexual desire
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking low sexual desire is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging low sexual desire without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing low sexual desire to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for low sexual desire while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Low Sexual Desire
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting low sexual desire, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Low Sexual Desire
Many people find that when they stop fighting low sexual desire and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of low sexual desire is partly the struggle against it.