Avoiding vulnerability is a common locus of control response that ultimately worsens it. Understanding the paradoxical relationship between vulnerability and locus of control opens new pathways for recovery.
How Avoiding Vulnerability Maintains Locus of Control
- Concealing locus of control from others prevents the connection that would help
- The energy required to maintain a facade when locus of control is high is enormous
- Shame about locus of control thrives in secrecy — vulnerability interrupts this
- Authentic expression of locus of control often elicits the support that reduces it
Brené Brown's Research Relevance to Locus of Control
Brown's research shows that people with high levels of shame (common in locus of control) avoid vulnerability — which paradoxically increases shame and locus of control. Courage to be vulnerable interrupts this cycle.
Practicing Vulnerability with Locus of Control
Start small: share one authentic feeling with one trusted person. The feared negative response usually doesn't materialize — and when it doesn't, confidence in vulnerability builds.