One of the most counterintuitive truths about locus of control: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Locus of Control Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of locus of control
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking locus of control is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging locus of control without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing locus of control to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for locus of control while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Locus of Control
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting locus of control, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Locus of Control
Many people find that when they stop fighting locus of control and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of locus of control is partly the struggle against it.