Values clarification — identifying what matters most to you at the deepest level — is a cornerstone of ACT therapy for jealousy and provides direction when jealousy removes other navigational tools.
Why Values Matter for Jealousy
Jealousy often disconnects us from our values through avoidance, withdrawal, and reduced capacity. Reconnecting with values provides:
- Direction when jealousy has eliminated other motivation
- Meaning that persists even through difficult jealousy periods
- A basis for action independent of how jealousy makes you feel
Clarifying Your Values with Jealousy
Ask yourself: 'If my jealousy were less present, what would I be doing more of? What kind of person would I be?'
Values are not goals (achievable and done) but ongoing directions: being a present parent, creating beauty, contributing to others.
Values-Based Action in Jealousy
ACT therapy teaches: act according to values even when jealousy is present. Small values-aligned actions, despite jealousy, are more sustainable than waiting for jealousy to lift first.