Intergenerational trauma refers to the apparent transmission of trauma between generations of a family. People who experienced adverse childhood experiences growing up, or who survived historical disasters or traumas , may pass the effects of those traumas on to their children or grandchildren, through their genes , their behavior, or both, leaving the next generation susceptible to anxiety , depression , hypervigilance, and other emotional and mental health concerns.
How Intergenerational Trauma Erodes Self-Worth
Intergenerational Trauma frequently attacks the foundation of how we see ourselves. The relationship between intergenerational trauma and self-worth is often deeply entangled.
Common ways intergenerational trauma damages self-worth:
- Negative core beliefs: "Intergenerational Trauma means I'm broken/weak/unlovable"
- Comparison thinking: measuring yourself against others who don't struggle
- Internalized shame: believing intergenerational trauma is your fault
- Achievement avoidance: not trying to avoid confirming negative beliefs
- People-pleasing: seeking external validation to compensate
Separating Identity from Intergenerational Trauma
One of the most powerful shifts in recovering self-worth while managing intergenerational trauma is learning to separate who you are from what you experience:
- Intergenerational Trauma is something you have, not something you are
- Your worth is not determined by your symptoms or struggles
- Many people with intergenerational trauma lead deeply meaningful, connected lives
- Struggles often build unique strengths: empathy, resilience, insight
Evidence-Based Approaches
Self-Compassion Practice (Kristin Neff):
- Acknowledge your suffering without judgment
- Remember suffering is a shared human experience
- Offer yourself the same kindness you'd give a friend
Values-Based Identity:
- Identify your core values independent of intergenerational trauma
- Act in alignment with values even when intergenerational trauma is present
- Let values-driven actions build evidence of your worth
Recovery Path
- Therapy (especially schema therapy or ACT) targets core beliefs
- Journaling: document evidence against negative self-beliefs
- Celebrate small wins that challenge "I can't" narratives
- Surround yourself with people who see your full worth