One of the most counterintuitive truths about sexual orientation: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Sexual Orientation Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of sexual orientation
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking sexual orientation is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging sexual orientation without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing sexual orientation to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for sexual orientation while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Sexual Orientation
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting sexual orientation, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Sexual Orientation
Many people find that when they stop fighting sexual orientation and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of sexual orientation is partly the struggle against it.