One of the most counterintuitive truths about hexaco: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of HEXACO Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of hexaco
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking hexaco is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging hexaco without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing hexaco to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for hexaco while still living your values
The ACT Approach to HEXACO
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting hexaco, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting HEXACO
Many people find that when they stop fighting hexaco and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of hexaco is partly the struggle against it.