Gamophobia, or the fear of marriage or commitment, is derived from the Greek word gamos, or marriage. People who have this fear are chronically wary about entering into relationships; even contemplating the idea of marriage or long-term unions makes them feel guarded. Instead, they hop from one casual hookup to the next. Gamophobia is an interpersonal tendency, it is not a diagnosis and it is not listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders .
The Roots of Gamophobia
When a person has gamophobia, there may be different influences at play . The person may have:
Any of these influences can affect a person’s attitude and beliefs. The fear can be intense, excessive, and or unreasonable.
Gamophobia can be like other phobias, where the person suffers dread that may bring on sweating, tremors, dizziness, rapid breathing, chest pain, increased heart rate, or other physical sensations.
In healthy long-term relationships, partners must share their lives, thoughts, and emotions. Opening up in this way may feel uncomfortable for people who fear commitment . For such individuals, the idea of exposing their feelings may lead them to hold back.
How to Overcome Gamophobia
People can and do overcome marriage and commitment phobia. It helps to start with one's beliefs about marriage and long-term relationships, as well as their fears about attachment . Being open and honest will promote security and stability. A therapist can also help a person overcome their fears.
Commitment-phobic people are not always honest with themselves, and if they are in a relationship, they may not be honest with the other person, either. It may help to pinpoint the root cause—a fear of abandonment, negative beliefs about relationships, or other sources. In addition, being exposed to healthy relationships can be a helpful example of role modeling.
Therapy can help a person face fears of many sorts, including those related to interpersonal commitment. Cognitive behavioral therapy is effective for many concerns both intrapsychic and interpersonal. If the individual is in a relationship, couples therapy may be helpful as well.
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