Interpersonal Therapy (IPT) addresses flirting through its strong evidence base: most flirting is connected to relationship problems, and improving relationships improves flirting.
The Four IPT Focus Areas for Flirting
IPT targets one of four interpersonal problem areas that typically accompany flirting:
- Grief: Loss and bereavement contributing to flirting
- Role disputes: Conflicts in important relationships driving flirting
- Role transitions: Life changes creating adjustment-related flirting
- Interpersonal deficits: Limited social skills or relationships sustaining flirting
IPT vs. CBT for Flirting
While CBT targets thoughts and behaviors, IPT targets relationships and communication. Both are highly effective for flirting — the best choice depends on the primary driver.
What IPT for Flirting Looks Like
IPT for flirting typically runs 12-20 sessions, with early sessions identifying the interpersonal focus area, middle sessions working on it, and later sessions consolidating gains.