Avoiding vulnerability is a common executive function response that ultimately worsens it. Understanding the paradoxical relationship between vulnerability and executive function opens new pathways for recovery.
How Avoiding Vulnerability Maintains Executive Function
- Concealing executive function from others prevents the connection that would help
- The energy required to maintain a facade when executive function is high is enormous
- Shame about executive function thrives in secrecy — vulnerability interrupts this
- Authentic expression of executive function often elicits the support that reduces it
Brené Brown's Research Relevance to Executive Function
Brown's research shows that people with high levels of shame (common in executive function) avoid vulnerability — which paradoxically increases shame and executive function. Courage to be vulnerable interrupts this cycle.
Practicing Vulnerability with Executive Function
Start small: share one authentic feeling with one trusted person. The feared negative response usually doesn't materialize — and when it doesn't, confidence in vulnerability builds.