Avoiding vulnerability is a common dsm response that ultimately worsens it. Understanding the paradoxical relationship between vulnerability and dsm opens new pathways for recovery.
How Avoiding Vulnerability Maintains DSM
- Concealing dsm from others prevents the connection that would help
- The energy required to maintain a facade when dsm is high is enormous
- Shame about dsm thrives in secrecy — vulnerability interrupts this
- Authentic expression of dsm often elicits the support that reduces it
Brené Brown's Research Relevance to DSM
Brown's research shows that people with high levels of shame (common in dsm) avoid vulnerability — which paradoxically increases shame and dsm. Courage to be vulnerable interrupts this cycle.
Practicing Vulnerability with DSM
Start small: share one authentic feeling with one trusted person. The feared negative response usually doesn't materialize — and when it doesn't, confidence in vulnerability builds.