One of the most counterintuitive truths about decision-making: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Decision-Making Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of decision-making
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking decision-making is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging decision-making without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing decision-making to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for decision-making while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Decision-Making
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting decision-making, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Decision-Making
Many people find that when they stop fighting decision-making and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of decision-making is partly the struggle against it.