Deception refers to the act—big or small, cruel or kind—of encouraging people to believe information that is not true. Lying is a common form of deception—stating something known to be untrue with the intent to deceive.
How Deception Affects Workplace Relationships
Deception can create unique challenges in professional relationships. Symptoms may be misread by colleagues and managers who lack context about what you're experiencing.
Common misunderstandings:
- Quietness or withdrawal interpreted as disinterest or rudeness
- Reduced output during difficult periods seen as laziness
- Difficulty with conflict or assertiveness affecting professional standing
- Physical symptoms (fatigue, headaches) misread as lack of commitment
To Disclose or Not to Disclose?
Whether to tell colleagues or managers about deception is a deeply personal decision with real tradeoffs.
Reasons to disclose:
- Receive accommodations (flexible hours, remote work)
- Reduce self-monitoring and masking energy drain
- Build authentic relationships with trusted colleagues
- Access HR support and legal protections
Reasons not to disclose:
- Stigma and changed perceptions remain real risks
- Information may spread beyond intended recipients
- Not legally required in most situations
- May prefer keeping work and health separate
Middle path: Disclose the impact ("I work best in the morning") without the diagnosis if full disclosure feels too vulnerable.
Setting Boundaries at Work
- Energy management: Protect peak hours for high-demand work
- Meeting hygiene: Push back on unnecessary meetings that drain resources
- After-hours communication: Set clear expectations about response time
- Workload conversations: Proactively discuss capacity with managers rather than silently struggling
Building Supportive Workplace Relationships
- Identify 1–2 colleagues who can be trusted confidants
- Participate in team activities that align with your energy
- Communicate proactively when deception affects your work
- Seek managers who prioritize psychological safety and results over presenteeism