Conversion therapy is a pseudoscientific and discredited practice that attempts to force LGBTQ+ individuals to change their sexual orientation or gender identity and instead identify as heterosexual or cisgender. Because it is now understood that sexual orientation is not a choice or something that can be changed, so-called conversion therapy—sometimes called reparative therapy, ex-gay therapy, or sexual reorientation therapy—is not only ineffective, it is often actively harmful. Research has co
How Conversion Therapy Contributes to Loneliness
Conversion Therapy can create profound feelings of isolation. When you're struggling with conversion therapy, social withdrawal often follows as a natural but counterproductive coping mechanism.
Key ways conversion therapy intensifies loneliness:
- Reduced energy and motivation for social contact
- Negative self-talk that makes reaching out feel pointless
- Withdrawal behaviors that push others away
- Feeling misunderstood by those who haven't experienced conversion therapy
- Physical symptoms that limit social participation
Breaking the Conversion Therapy-Loneliness Cycle
The connection between conversion therapy and loneliness is often bidirectional — each makes the other worse. Breaking this cycle requires intentional effort:
- Acknowledge the pattern — recognize when conversion therapy is driving isolation
- Start small — brief, low-pressure social contact counts
- Join support groups — connect with others who understand conversion therapy
- Use technology mindfully — video calls and messaging can bridge gaps
- Volunteer or help others — giving reduces loneliness
When Loneliness Becomes Chronic
Chronic loneliness alongside conversion therapy significantly increases health risks. Research shows combined loneliness and conversion therapy can:
- Weaken immune function
- Increase cardiovascular risk
- Accelerate cognitive decline
- Worsen mental health outcomes dramatically
Professional support is essential when both are present simultaneously.
Building Connection Despite Conversion Therapy
- Seek therapists who specialize in both conversion therapy and social connection
- Practice self-compassion to reduce shame around needing others
- Build a "small but mighty" support network of 2–3 reliable people
- Consider pet therapy or animal companionship
- Engage in structured group activities with shared goals