One of the most counterintuitive truths about compulsive behaviors: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Compulsive Behaviors Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of compulsive behaviors
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking compulsive behaviors is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging compulsive behaviors without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing compulsive behaviors to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for compulsive behaviors while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Compulsive Behaviors
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting compulsive behaviors, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Compulsive Behaviors
Many people find that when they stop fighting compulsive behaviors and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of compulsive behaviors is partly the struggle against it.