One of the most counterintuitive truths about cognitive reappraisal: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Cognitive Reappraisal Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of cognitive reappraisal
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking cognitive reappraisal is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging cognitive reappraisal without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing cognitive reappraisal to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for cognitive reappraisal while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Cognitive Reappraisal
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting cognitive reappraisal, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Cognitive Reappraisal
Many people find that when they stop fighting cognitive reappraisal and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of cognitive reappraisal is partly the struggle against it.