One of the most counterintuitive truths about cognitive dissonance: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Cognitive Dissonance Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of cognitive dissonance
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking cognitive dissonance is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging cognitive dissonance without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing cognitive dissonance to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for cognitive dissonance while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Cognitive Dissonance
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting cognitive dissonance, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Cognitive Dissonance
Many people find that when they stop fighting cognitive dissonance and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of cognitive dissonance is partly the struggle against it.