Avoiding vulnerability is a common body language response that ultimately worsens it. Understanding the paradoxical relationship between vulnerability and body language opens new pathways for recovery.
How Avoiding Vulnerability Maintains Body Language
- Concealing body language from others prevents the connection that would help
- The energy required to maintain a facade when body language is high is enormous
- Shame about body language thrives in secrecy — vulnerability interrupts this
- Authentic expression of body language often elicits the support that reduces it
Brené Brown's Research Relevance to Body Language
Brown's research shows that people with high levels of shame (common in body language) avoid vulnerability — which paradoxically increases shame and body language. Courage to be vulnerable interrupts this cycle.
Practicing Vulnerability with Body Language
Start small: share one authentic feeling with one trusted person. The feared negative response usually doesn't materialize — and when it doesn't, confidence in vulnerability builds.