How Beauty Affects Your Relationships

Discover how Beauty impacts personal relationships and what you can do about it.

We all know that gorgeous people get preferential treatment. It’s a not-too-pretty fact of life long attributed to the halo effect , a type of cognitive bias or judgment discrepancy in which our impression of a person dictates the assumptions we make about that individual. For example, people will more readily blame an unattractive person for a crime than an attractive one. Now there’s evidence that beauty, intelligence , and other positive characteristics may go hand in hand.

The Truth About Beauty

Evolutionary psychologists have opened a line of inquiry into other age-old questions about beauty, observing that both men and women alike appear more concerned than ever with both attractiveness and perceived physical imperfections. It’s no surprise that a pretty woman will tend to be favored over others for a desired job opening. And there are some universal standards of beauty across the world--symmetry in the face and the body are preferred traits, for example, as are clear skin and youthfulness.

Unfortunately, yes. We like to say that kindness and looks matter more, and that we appreciate what's on the inside most. But that is not exactly the case, we live by the notion that beautiful is best . In fact, even children are drawn to aesthetically pleasing faces, as opposed to unattractive and asymmetric ones.

Truthfully, attractive people are afforded higher pay, more opportunities, special treatment, a free pass so to speak. In fact, the more attractive you are the higher chance of getting to the head of the line. Plus, the better-looking student is considered more competent and enjoys higher grades, as well.

There are drawbacks to being beautiful. A person with a gorgeous face is often deemed incompetent and less likely to be hired . These people are also often the target of jealousy and exclusion. And in the dating scene, a person with extraordinary looks will get passed over as unattainable.

How to Be More Attractive

While a new haircut, a little powder, and knowing what others find attractive might help you put on a good face, there are inner factors at play. A better foundation to build on is being confident, positive, and engaged with life. Feeling good about who you are will change the way you feel, move your body, and relate to others.

This is a cliche, but beauty is often in the eyes of the beholder . What is deemed attractive to one person may not be so for another. However, a conventional and symmetric face is generally considered appealing. Also, people are often drawn to what is familiar. For example, people who grew up in the same neighborhood are commonly attracted to each other.

Most people are far too critical of their own physical appearance, especially those who engage in self-downing or negative self-talk , which can and should be challenged. It is important to also focus on non-physical aspects of one's desirability , such as warmth, character and personality . When evaluating your attractiveness to potential partners, recognize that most individuals weigh all these factors and more in seeking relationships.

While heterosexual women also seek symmetry in male partners' features as well as height, they generally value status and resources at least as much, focusing on the question of whether a man will help them raise and support their future children.

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