One of the most counterintuitive truths about asperger's syndrome: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Asperger's Syndrome Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of asperger's syndrome
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking asperger's syndrome is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging asperger's syndrome without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing asperger's syndrome to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for asperger's syndrome while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Asperger's Syndrome
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting asperger's syndrome, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Asperger's Syndrome
Many people find that when they stop fighting asperger's syndrome and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of asperger's syndrome is partly the struggle against it.