One of the most counterintuitive truths about altruism: the struggle against it often makes it worse. Acceptance — clearly misunderstood — is one of the most powerful tools available.
What Acceptance of Altruism Actually Means
Acceptance does NOT mean:
- Liking or approving of altruism
- Giving up on getting better
- Thinking altruism is okay
Acceptance DOES mean:
- Acknowledging altruism without adding unnecessary struggle against the fact of its existence
- Allowing altruism to be present without fighting it into bigger problems
- Making room for altruism while still living your values
The ACT Approach to Altruism
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) uses acceptance as a core tool: instead of fighting altruism, you learn to make room for it while committing to valued action regardless.
The Paradox of Accepting Altruism
Many people find that when they stop fighting altruism and simply allow it, it loses intensity. The suffering of altruism is partly the struggle against it.