Parenting with adverse childhood experiences is one of the most complex challenges — and manageable with the right support and strategies.
The Truth About Parenting with Adverse Childhood Experiences
Children of parents with adverse childhood experiences are at higher genetic and environmental risk — this is real. But parental adverse childhood experiences that is acknowledged and managed has far less impact than adverse childhood experiences that is denied.
Practical Strategies for Parenting with Adverse Childhood Experiences
- Prioritize adverse childhood experiences treatment: You cannot pour from an empty cup
- Repair well: When adverse childhood experiences affects your parenting, the repair conversation matters more than the mistake
- Build village: Enlist other trusted adults so your children have support beyond you
- Maintain structure: Routine is especially stabilizing for children when parent has adverse childhood experiences
Talking to Children About Your Adverse Childhood Experiences
Age-appropriate honesty reduces children's self-blame (kids often think parental distress is their fault): 'Mommy/Daddy has a sickness that sometimes makes me feel sad/tired/worried. It's not your fault. I'm getting help.'