Where the Resistance Lives
Personal Perspective: How the body reveals what the mind avoids.
Posted April 14, 2026 | Reviewed by Gary Drevitch
There are moments, sitting in front of a blank page, when I can feel the words waiting—not absent, just withheld.
It is rarely a lack of ideas. More often, it is the presence of something I would rather not say—a sentence that feels too honest, too exposed, or too close to something unresolved. In those moments, the mind becomes active. It suggests alternatives, distractions, safer directions.
But beneath that activity, there is something quieter—a subtle contraction. A holding. And when I finally write the sentence I was avoiding, something shifts: The constriction softens. The next sentence arrives. What felt blocked begins to move.
Over time, I’ve started to notice that this pattern isn’t limited to writing.
It appears in conversations we postpone, accompanied by a tightening somewhere in the body. In thoughts we revisit without resolution, creating a low-grade agitation that lingers in the background. In the heaviness that follows prolonged avoidance, as though something within us has gone still.
We tend to think of these as mental experiences, but they are rarely just that. The body participates. It registers hesitation, conflict, and resistance in ways that are often more immediate than thought itself: A sensation in the stomach. A pressure in the chest. A subtle restlessness that is difficult to name but hard to ignore.
And occasionally, when we move toward what we’ve been avoiding—when we say the difficult thing, or allow a thought to fully form rather than pushing it away—there is a noticeable shift. Not always relief, but movement. A sense that something has unblocked.
Perhaps what we sometimes call flow is not a special state we achieve but a condition that emerges when there is less internal opposition—when we are not simultaneously moving forward and holding back. And perhaps resistance, when it arises, is not a failure but a signal. Not something to eliminate but something to understand.
This does not mean that all resistance should be dissolved. Some forms are protective, necessary, and wise . Boundaries , after all, are a kind of resistance.
But there are other moments—quieter ones—when the resistance feels different, less like protection and more like hesitation. And in those moments, gently moving toward what we are avoiding can change the texture of the experience—not dramatically, not all at once, but enough to notice.
For me, writing has become an activity in which this is most visible. The page has a way of revealing where I am open and where I am holding back. The question, more often than not, is not what to write next—but whether I am willing to meet what is already there.
Perhaps the body and mind are not separate systems, but parts of the same conversation—one speaking in words, the other in sensation—and perhaps flow is not something we find, but something we notice when, even briefly, we stop interrupting it.
Disclaimer: This reflection is intended for informational and contemplative purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice. Individuals should consult qualified healthcare professionals regarding their personal health and well-being.
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Lily Arora, MD, DFAPA, is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Rutgers-New Jersey Medical School.
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