Revisiting the Narcissistic Personality

The narcissistic personality: How they view themselves and why it matters.

Updated February 7, 2025 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader

The term "narcissist" is often overused, but for those harmed by narcissistic personalities, the true meaning is best understood through the experiences of those who have been victimized physically, mentally, emotionally, or financially by them. In doing research for my book Dangerous Personalities , here are the traits that the narcissistic personality often feels or displays in abundance:

If the above seems self-centered and cruel, it is for a reason. That is how they see themselves and will behave.

What You Can Expect if You Associate With a Narcissistic Personality

Coping With Narcissistic Personalities

Understanding the traits and behaviors of narcissistic personalities is crucial in mitigating the psychological toll of interacting with them. Distancing yourself is always best, but when dealing with children, elderly relatives, or workplace superiors, complete avoidance may not be feasible. In these situations, support from friends and allies is crucial as is professional help. Keep in mind that remaining in a narcissistic individual’s orbit often includes emotional exhaustion, diminished self-esteem , and an erosion of personal well-being. Once more, as the victims have related to me: distance and disassociation where possible is best.

As Stuart C. Yudofsky states in his landmark book, Fatal Flaws , the narcissistic personality is “severely flawed of character.” They may leave a debris field of suffering wherever they go. And while professional intervention may be beneficial for some, the reality is that narcissists rarely acknowledge their pathology or seek meaningful change. As a result, those affected must prioritize their own psychological health, often by limiting or severing ties with the narcissistic individual. As I often say, you have no social obligation to be victimized.

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Joe Navarro is a former FBI Counterintelligence Agent and is the author of What Every Body is Saying . He is an expert on nonverbal communications and body language.

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