Preventing Compassion Fatigue
How can we maintain the ability to care about others?
Posted September 16, 2012 | Reviewed by Devon Frye
I vividly remember the first day my medical school classmates and I met our cadavers in the anatomy lab. Large body bags lay on metal tables that had been bolted to the floor. More than anything, I remember the sheer size of the bags. No doubt existed in my mind that dead human bodies indeed lay within them.
And yet part of me couldn't quite grasp that I was actually going to soon be unzipping them and cutting into flesh through which blood had once flowed as freely as it now did in mine. I also vividly remember a classmate of mine—one who'd struck me as being particularly sensitive to others—leaning against the wall at one point, looking pale and shaky. I remember worrying that she was going to faint.
But she didn't. And like the rest of us, soon she was cutting into her cadaver with focused precision. Within only one week, we had all habituated to the notion that we were dissecting dead people as if they were only mannequins, as well as to the smell of the preservative in which our cadavers had all been soaked.
Even on the most bizarre day of our anatomy experience—the one during which we had to saw off our cadavers' legs, carry them on our shoulders to the lab's sinks, and wash out the leftover detritus—none of us became woozy or even emotionally disturbed by what we were doing at all.
That particular classmate eventually went on to become my colleague, one with whom I've since shared many patients. And though she was always technically excellent, again and again it would get back to me from patients to whom I'd send her that she had a poor bedside manner.
Whenever I'd hear this, I'd wonder: had she always been only peripherally interested in the suffering of others (as more than one of my patients judged her to be) or did she begin as empathetic and compassionate as I'd first judged her to be, but simply had those characteristics pounded out of her by her training and subsequent years in practice?
The Benefit of Compassion
The scientific literature is full of studies demonstrating the benefits of compassion, not just to those who receive it but also to those who feel it. Compassion is considered a great virtue—perhaps the greatest—and is something most of us aspire to feel in abundance.
Yet feeling it is surprisingly hard. There are many reasons for this: people annoy, anger , disappoint, and hurt us; we're inherently self-interested beings whose desires often come in conflict with the desires of others; and in caring for others and attending to their needs, we often neglect ourselves and become resentful—projecting our inability to set appropriate boundaries onto others. We're also all so busy, so focused on what we have to do next, that often we don't stop to help someone else, even when we could. After all, doing so represents an interruption in our day, and perhaps might even prevent us from accomplishing important goals .
But perhaps the most insidious force that gnaws away at our ability to feel compassion is habituation. We have an amazing ability to get used to things—meaning that if repeated again and again, something which at first stimulates great emotion (positive or negative) progressively stimulates that emotion less and less. This is why, I think, over time, my colleague's bedside manner deteriorated: She simply got so used to the suffering she saw day in and day out that it ceased to trigger her compassion (or triggered it far less, or far less consistently).
I've experienced this myself. When patient after patient comes to you in horrible pain, it can start to feel routine. Further, doctors often have difficulty imagining the subjective experience of illness (not being sick themselves, at least most of the time). So when confronted, for example, with a patient's minor backache, we're more apt to treat it perfunctorily, especially when another patient we might have seen that morning was suffering from unbearable, debilitating bone pain due to metastatic cancer.
So, how can we consistently maintain our compassion for others?
Eventually, I stopped referring patients to my former classmate. The pictures my patients were painting of her were simply too consistent. I was sad about this—not so much because I'd lost a valuable resource, but because her experiences in medicine seemed to have stamped out something in her that was important, that once, I'm sure, mattered as much to her as it did to her patients. I wondered how aware she was of this change. I wondered how often I'd been guilty of the same thing.
In the end, I resolved to use her experience as a lesson: even for those of us who fight every day to maintain our compassion, it's an all-too-easy battle to lose.
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Alex Lickerman, M.D. , is a general internist and former Director of Primary Care at the University of Chicago and has been a practicing Buddhist since 1989.
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